We all know how the amazing the internet is, I wouldn’t be sitting here typing this up in my house if it wasn’t for what the internet has brought me. But every coin has another side and I feel the the internet is responsible for the majority of us feeling down in the dumps.
I for one have suffered from feeling pretty shitty about myself, but only as a reflection on what is in front of me, on a screen. Why are we getting so down? Because the internet is normalising the unobtainable. Sharing photos of exotic islands retreats, designer bags and our gluttony as though this is normal, can seriously make you peer down and your little chipped nail polished scrolling thumb and question whether you’re doing life right. Are we doing life right? Yes! Just because we’re not washing our hair under a waterfall in Thailand on a Wednesday morning does not mean that there’s something wrong. Just because we prefer to lace up 10 year old converse over strapping into Loui Vuitton’s does not mean we’re dong life wrong. Just because we’re burning our mouth on that 5th desperate cuppa of the day, as to burning our toes in the luscious white sands in the Maldives does not mean we’re doing life wrong. Granted, there are fortunate people out there that have luxurious lifestyles, but they’re a minority. I know whats its like to sit at a desk and see the amount of people out being free and enjoying themselves on my instagram feed and then the feeling of self doubt kicks in because the thought of a trip away seems too far from reality to comprehend. MOST people don’t holiday every week, or shop whenever they fancy or eat out every day.
Bloggers I feel can be to blame for becoming out of touch with what’s relatable too, I’ve been guilty myself. There is a need for a balance of interest, ‘is what I’m doing benefitting my readers?’ ‘Can I see the people that read my blog doing this too?’ But there’s also the aspect of allowing yourself great opportunities and as long as you’re transparent that whatever your doing is a great opportunity which you would never see yourself doing without blogging, then there’s understanding and acceptance with that.
Also remember people want to share they’re highlights, the things that make them look good. People don’t share their raging arguments with their partners on the internet, nor the tears of the aftermath, people share the flowers and chocolates and the gag worthy essays on how much they love their other half, I mean what even is #relationshipgoals?
What we need to remember is behind every screen is a normal person, there is no point letting what others CHOOSE to share effect how we reflect on our own lives. Whether its success, getaways, relationships or their latest purchase. We all have to remember that we each have attributes that I can guarantee others will want. The best thing to do is remember that real life is is around you, not glowing at you on a screen. People will tweak, edit and highlight the best bits of life as for some reason, the internet is obsessed with portraying perfection.