I remember a time back at school where you would only go on the school trip if your mates were going, or something was only worthwhile if there was a familiar face. But gone are the days of missing opportunities because of the disturbing feeling of doing it on your own. The uncomfortable notion of having nobody to talk to or feeling strange for sitting alone. In fact looking back it really is quite ridiculous that I used to think people would judge you, or think your were weird for doing things on your own. Teenagers hey? Recently I went to Brighton for a tattoo and had the day after to explore and I loved every second…
I think the first step on conquering being a solo artist of life is going to a meal on your own. I did this once when I was staying in London for a shoot and I was starving, I had totally forgotten about being able to order room service, so down to the restaurant I go. I wasn’t the only one eating alone, I felt part of some exclusive club for people working away, never once making eye contact, but you are all there, disconnected but somehow as one. They were probably all used to it, but I felt super cool.
The next step (which I haven’t actually done yet excuse me) is going to see a movie alone. I feel like this is something that becoming more popular. Many of my friends that have fancied a movie, but haven’t found anyone as equally as interested have just thought to go alone.
But the travelling part, although I haven’t done much of solo is something that I would definitely like to try more of. Not because I don’t enjoy the company of others (believe me having someone to talk to and take photos with is fun) however something about being alone and vulnerable to some degree makes the whole experience more eye opening. When I have been away alone and had time to explore, I feel that everything I see and hear and do is way more intense. I feel that when your accompanied by someone, as lovely as it can be, the overall experience is somewhat filtered because your sharing it. Conversations distract you from your surroundings because your attention is focused on the interaction between you and the other person. However when you are alone, you are entirely exposed to everything. There is nothing there to distract you except yourself. There’s no compromising either, there’s no doing things you’re not interested in or potentially not doing things that you feel someone else doesn’t want to do.
You feel more in tuned with yourself because you only have you mind as company. You become more outgoing as you only have yourself to rely on and at times you will most defiantly have to interact with others. \
As much as I love the company of another to share moments with, I’m also learning to love the company of myself. We were put on this planet alone, so it sorta makes sense to go at life alone.